November 7th, 2011
This is a letter to my fellow women and mom entrepreneurs…
Have you ever had a stunning revelation about yourself? I mean, a really deep realization about why you are who you are and why you do what you do?
If you are a woman or mom entrepreneur then this letter is for you.
I work a lot. It’s almost like I can’t help myself. I find myself turning on the comptuer and reading about business and marketing even on the weekends. I am writing this post on a Saturday morning while Shrek blairs in the background. I push and push and push and push.
I never stop.
Until this past Thursday morning when I stopped and finally asked myself, “Why am I pushing myself so hard?”
It wasn’t a sudden lightening flash – I was on an intro call with a business coach who asked me some startlingly simple questions about my goals and what reaching them would mean to me.
But after the call was over – and since Thursday, I haven’t been able to think of much else.
Why am I doing this?
Stressing out. Pushing. Always seeking. Always reaching. Always striving for more.
Money? Riches? Did I want to be a millionaire? Where was I going with all this – PUSHING? And was it even worth it? Did I even know where I was headed?
So, I got quiet. Turned off the computer. And listened.
Here’s what I discovered:
I’ve been pushing and striving and doing for as long as I can remember. Even as I child I remember feeling that I needed to work as hard as possible to have a better life – to get out of that small town.
But here’s where it gets good…
What does a better life mean to you?
The truth…I haven’t really thought about that answer. As much as I know what projects I’m working on and the how I’ll get them done, I haven’t really gone deeper to find out why I’m really doing all this work in the first place!
But before I could dwell on that reality, it came to me.
The reason I’m doing everything I do is to build a beautiful, stable, and nurturing home for my family.
And not only that but to help other moms and women see that’s it’s possible to build a life of their own design. Possibility in the face of more work, more roles to play and fighting the overwhelm that is a regular occurence for most of us moms.
So now… I ask you to sit back where you are right now and do this simple exercise.
Start thinking and feeling your why again.
Take a deep breath.
Just think about everything that is important to you.
Likely your reason why is lurking just below the surface – right under your grocery list, your pile of laundry, the mess of paperwork on your desk, behind all those ½ started blog posts and just beyond the business you’ve been daydreaming about starting.
Dare to go there.
Keep in mind that you may not find a complex why – I didn’t. Don’t push a simple why away.
Sit with it.
Get to know it.
Now it’s your turn.
Put your why in writing today by sharing in the comments section below.
~image credit by Gediminas Kasputis